Time to address the next aging epidemic caregiver stress

PRIME November 2012 By Gina M. Barry Bacon Wilson P.C. "I'm so stressed out!" Certainly, all of us have made this proclamation. Take a moment now to think of how you felt at that time, and you will get a glimpse into the daily lives of our nation's family caregivers. A caregiver is anyone who helps another person in need with daily tasks, such as bathing, cooking, eating, taking medications, dressing, using the bathroom, shopping, house clean-ing, and the like. Approximately 44 million Americans (21 percent of the adult population) provide unpaid care. The U.S. Depart-ment of Health and Human Services estimates that informal caregivers provide 80 percent of the long-term care in the United States. As our population continues to age, demands for care will steadily increase and caregiver stress, unless recognized and remedied, will become even more pervasive. A growing problem Caregiver stress is real, and its impact severe. Providing care is physically and emotionally demanding, especially when the care recipient requires 24 hour care. A spousal caregiver over the age of 65 has a greatly increased risk of dying over spouses in the same age group who are not providing care. Very often, the caregiving spouse neglects his or her own health issues, which are usually compounded by stress, because he or she is too busy addressing the care needs of the spouse. Obvious physical signs of stress include but certainly are not limited to fatigue, high blood pressure, irregular heart beat or palpitations, chest pain, back, shoulder or neck pain, frequent headaches, digestive problems and hair loss. Caregivers experiencing sustained stress may also exhibit a weakened immune system. Emotional signs of stress are usually not easily observed. These signs include a gamut of feelings, including but not limited to, anxiety, depression, irritability, frustration, lack of control or isolation. A stressed caregiver may also report or exhibit mood swings, memory problems, and/or general unhappiness, including expressing resentment toward the care recipient and family members who do not contribute. Suffering in silence Most often, caregivers have difficulty asking for help. Either they do not recognize the stress, or they feel hopeless. Caregivers will also often express feelings of extreme guilt associated with asking someone else to provide care in their stead, even if only for a short period of time. In this regard, it is very important for the family and friends of caregivers to encourage regular respite for the caregiver and to ensure that the caregiver takes these regular breaks from caregiving. Respite can be provided in home or at a facility and may take the form of day care or involve a short stay at the facility. Coping methods There are also many other ways that caregivers can reduce their stress. Caregivers should learn about programs that are available to assist with caregiving and how to qualify for such assistance. There are a variety of programs available, including meal delivery, home health care, day care, transportation and the like. An elder law attorney can help determine which programs the elder would qualify for, and/or the necessary steps to ensure eligibility for benefits in the future. Caregivers should also objectively look at the care they are providing and determine whether it may be done more efficiently. For example, it would be preferable to purchase a new washing machine and dryer than to continue to use a public laundromat. Caregivers should also prioritize tasks, use lists and establish a daily routine, while avoiding taking on additional projects, such as hosting a holiday meal. Self-help steps Some caregivers find individual counseling helpful. In addition, there are many support groups, ideal for connecting with other caregivers and learning improved ways to provide care or cope with difficulties. Moreover, caregivers should strive to include some fun in their weekly schedule. Taking in a movie, going for a walk or meeting a friend for coffee and conversation can be delightful distractions. Caregivers should also be sure to get regular exercise, which provides stress relief and has a positive effect on mood, plan healthy meals and do their best to adhere to a sleep schedule. When a caregiver is cognizant of the signs of caregiver stress and actively works to combat it, he or she will be better able to aid a loved one for a much longer period of time. Whenever possible, family and friends should support the caregiver and be on the lookout for any signs of caregiver stress. With the continued graying of our nation and the anticipated increase in caregiving by family members, if we do not adhere to these practices, our nation's next disabling epidemic will likely be caregiver stress. Gina M. Barry is a Partner with the law firm of Bacon Wilson, P.C., Attorneys at Law. She is a member of the National Association of Elder Law Attorneys, the Estate Planning Council, and the Western Massachusetts Elder Care Professionals Association. She concentrates her practice in the areas of Estate and Asset Protection Planning, Probate Administration and Litigation, Guardianships, Conservatorships and Residential Real Estate. Gina may be reached at 413-781-0560 or gbarry@baconwilson.com.